Witnessing the wonders of parenthood, I do respect the
choice of other people to become parents and I admire their dedication and love
for their children. However, I feel that fatherhood would not work for me.
There are some individuals who shouldn't have kids, but do so anyway. They
don't do justice to raising their children, harming the kids. I don't want to
be one of those people! It is necessary to dedicate yourself to whatever
pursuit or endeavor you are most suited for.
I have several important reasons for my decisions,
involving concern for my mental health, financial considerations, protection of
my identity, future plans for my life, my personal freedom and my age. I have
some mental health issues, including Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD) and
depression. Stress makes my problems worse, and children would cause stress! I
also wouldn't want to pass my mental health issues onto my children. OCD and
depression are highly hereditary. This world is becoming an increasingly
hostile place, so any children with mental health issues would probably have to
suffer a lot in life, being heavily stigmatized by society.
I also lack the financial resources to support a family,
so that is another major consideration. A father has a duty to provide for his
children, one that I am not ready for. Without the money and emotional
stability required, I will opt out of parenthood. Children shouldn't be brought
up in poverty! Then there is my age to consider: I am 34 and don't want to be
an older dad. If I had a child at age 40, I would be 62 when the child
graduates from college! I don’t want to be put in that situation!
The strength of being an adult is to be able to think
rationally, to weigh the pros and cons of every major life decision. I have
done this on the topic of parenthood over the past several years. I made my
decision for medical and financial reasons, but I will be glad for the freedom
to be myself. I will be able to grab a beer when I want, curse when I want and
watch R-rated movies when I want to! It is better to do a few things well than
many things poorly.
Society makes it seem like every adult has to become a
parent at some point; I don't agree with this. In order for our society to
survive, most people do have to start families; however, our generation has
already done this. Life is very short, so it makes sense to choose a lifestyle
that works for us and the people around us. I can enrich myself and society by
continuing to develop my brain, pursuing new interests, learning new things and
trying out new activities.
There are reasons why society benefits from adults who
don't have families. I have big plans for my life, including traveling,
blogging, socializing and pursuing new interests. I strongly want to establish
myself as a social media personality; this will require time, dedication and
hard work. I can make life fun and interesting for other people, connecting
with others in meaningful ways and providing moral support to them. With my
blog and social outreach, I want to provide my readers with an outlet for
entertainment and mental stimulation.
Children completely take over a person's life, for the
rest of their life. I don't want to make a decision that will permanently alter
my life in that way. I desire to be free and independent. I have several new
things that I want to do with my life. Without the pressures of family life, I
will have much more time to develop this blog and market it more, making social
connections and attending events. I also want to have friends and lovers to do
fun things with. I hope to explore the world around me and enjoy all that life
has to offer in my 30s, 40s and 50s!
